i think that one of the hardest things about moving away from a place you love is that after awhile, you begin to wonder if you've been forgotten. it's a reality, and it's human ... we all go on with our lives, and it's easy to have someone who is out of sight transition to being out of mind as well. it's like anything in life ... after awhile, you move on and there are more pressing issues to deal with ... or in this case, other people to fill that vacant spot in the community you left. there's a sadness, but there's also an organic, natural flow to it. this is how life happens.
so when a few friends in new york told us over christmas that they would like to throw us a little get together, like a baby shower, i was really humbled and grateful. and when we were in new york a couple of weeks ago, and it was more than just a few people who came to the party, and kindly brought gifts, and celebrated with me the fact that we're having a kid?? well, i have to be honest, i was a little in shock. so much kindness and love ... i was a bit dumbfounded.
that's why it's been so hard for me to just make these new places that we've moved to into my home ... because when you have friends who have known you most of your life, and who won't let you be forgotten ... who go out of their way to show you kindness and love?? i can tell you that that kind of love is not something that happens in a few weeks in a new place. and if you're very lucky, after a couple of years, you may have the seeds of it, and they may be germinating (but again, only if you're very lucky.)
see what i mean?? even the little details like cute cupcake wrappers with flags. so many little details and evidences of thoughtfulness. and the post-party talking and laughter with close friends?? one of my favorite gifts that day ... because even though i've got pretty much every thing i could possibly need for us to be ready to have a baby, all stacked neatly in our car and in our apartment here in baltimore, it's not as easy to access those moments, giggling like teenage girls, and having the chance to talk to someone who shares your convictions and preferences (and even political views!!). i mean seriously!! when does that happen for any of us, much less someone who has up-rooted their life twice in two years?? [spoiler alert: it doesn't.]
i didn't get a chance to take more than a couple of photos, because i was busy eating delicious food and opening generous gifts, but i am so grateful ... beyond words ... for that afternoon of fun and generosity from my friends. and i'm even more thankful for what that day was a manifestation of ... those who have actively chosen to remember me and continually extend kindness and love, even when i wasn't immediately in view, and it took extra effort and thoughtfulness.